Over the years I blamed so many outside forces for me not achieving my dreams. If I only had enough money, time, support, and many other things then I would reach my dreams.
It took me a long time to figure out that the real enemy was within. We hold ourselves back from the very things we want most. Setting up roadblocks, we stumble over ourselves. The inner world is always a precursor to the outer world and your self-hatred, fear, and lack of knowledge a lot of times is the reason you are standing in the way of your dreams.
In order to overcome these roadblocks we must first acknowledge and realize they exist. You are solely responsible for your dream and only you can bring it to life. Only you can choose to breathe life into your dream and only you alone can kill it. You may be making your dream harder without even realizing it.
Here are 4 roadblocks you have may have put up without even realizing it:
1. Asking for permission
Feedback is important on the way to your dreams but we don’t do this properly. Instead of asking for feedback, we ask for permission. Feedback tweaks aspects of your dream while permission shuts down and destroys it. Expecting everyone to understand and get your dream is a sure fire way to get discouraged. Your dream is so unique to you that many will not and should not understand. If you do not have confidence in your dream, I would be extremely cautious of whom you share it with. You need to stop asking for permission to chase your dream and just go for it.
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” – Mahatma Gandhi
2. Using debt the wrong way
Often, unconsciously, we trade away our dreams for our wants and desire for our lifestyle today. We run up credit cards, buy new cars, and buy a big house then need a large monthly check to cover all of our expenses. Debt can be a tool but often times we use debt to play now and pay later. Before buying something, take some time and ask yourself if the item will help you move closer to your dreams or if it will become a roadblock.
3. Being a lone wolf
Just because our dreams are our own, sometimes we get under the illusion that we should do it on our own. We actually need others on our journey more than we realize. Connections and support are things we need to build into our dream chasing journey. Instead of running on your own, try and build mutually beneficial relationships. Think of people that you can help and that can help you. Consistency in relationships will help you achieve your dreams.
4. Wasting time
We waste a lot of time. There are a lot of obvious ones like watching t.v. or playing video games, but this goes much deeper than that. We spend a lot of time working on our dreams that won’t progress us much. In order to achieve our dreams, we must be masters of our personal time. We need to cut the fluff and only work on meaningful tasks. If you find yourself saying you don’t have time for your dreams, start cutting. Get in a mode of reevaluating what you are doing and if it is working. A lot of good things need to be cut to leave room for the great things.
“A man who dares to waste one hour of time, has not discovered the value of life.” – Charles Darwin
All of these roadblocks can be overcome on the way to your dreams. When you start knocking down the walls you have put up, you will find the dream chasing journey easier. Build relationships, reduce and eliminate your personal debt, and master your time. Focused energy over time will put you on the right track. Never give up and never give in and you will see your dreams. Be blessed on your journey.